A tribe needs two things – a shared interest and a way to communicate. Chey B. leads a tribe of over 50,000 men and women searching for a better them. He tweets, posts, and blogs advice via the social media gamete. Yet, this wasn’t always his plan. He uncovers his interest at his rock bottom – a shelter. An old proverb holds true.
A man reaps what he sows.
As he helps people, he helps himself out his dreadful situation. Today, he is the author of his first book “Food Sex and Peace of Mind”.
Similar to most young adults, Chey attends Texas Wesleyan University going through the motions without any true passion. Business management and psychology seems like an intuitive and practical choice for a prosperous career. “When I first enrolled in school, I simply wanted to go to school so that my friends, family members, and teachers would see that I didn’t just finish high school, and call it quits.”, says Chey.
After college with a degree in his hands, Chey states he was “clueless”, and “it takes some people many years to figure out who they want to be. Who there are. What they want to be. That was me.” He starts photography, but deep down he knew photography isn’t his life long career.
The fleckless float through life lands Chey in a shelter. He applies to countless jobs each day, and gets no response. While homeless, humility sets in. In his desire to receive help, he has a desire to help others. On social media networks, he asks people to send him questions, and he’ll help. “I simply had the time. I had the energy. I was passionate about it. I was looking for anybody who would let me help them with their relationships. So, this demand started to grow and grow and grow and grow”.
Whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
Indeed, it grew. As he turns the narrative from I need help to I will help, his life turns around. Chey decides to stop looking for jobs, and volunteer at a non-profit. “When [the non-profit organization] saw my application and resume, they hired me full-time. I said ‘wow this is what God was trying to show me’. He was trying to show me a cheerful giver, and how to be a better giver. That changed my life for the better”, says Chey.
“I thank God that I ended up in that homeless shelter, because it humbled me. It made me appreciate everything. Every cent, every dime, every minute, every hour, every family member every friend everyone who’s in my life”, says Chey.
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
His position with the non-profit expires, but all the while his life coaching remains growing. He’s now a full time life coach. “Out of all the jobs that I’ve worked in my life, I found more fulfillment doing life and relationship coaching than anything else”, says Chey.
His newly found purpose quickly amasses a huge following on social media networks. He consistently offers free advice daily, and builds an impeccable brand of quality coaching amongst his followers. “I’m building peoples trust at no cost to them and what that does for me is that allows for them to see what I can do. And that makes them more confident in telling their friends their family members and their colleges hey you need to follow this guy”, says Chey.
There’s no magic formula to creating a following on social media. It’s simple – be yourself. Social media is not much different than any other relationship. With honesty, comes trust. Part of building a tribe relies heavily on your advocates. When people trust your content, they refer.
In hindsight, the aforementioned haphazardly business management and psychology degree now becomes a complimentary additive to his career. A formal background in psychology gives him a clear insight into people's social patterns. The business degree gives him an understanding to run his life coaching business and market himself. “I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life, but I was developing these skills while I was in school. All of these business and marketing skills are helping me in my life five years later.”
After building his network via new media, Chey turns to a traditional media with his first book “Food Sex and Peace of Mind”. Men are simple. We don’t require much to keep us happy. Hence the book title, a healthy relationship with a man boils down to three things – food, sex and peace of mind. Chey explains, “[Men] having a full stomach. [Men] having the lady in our lives provide intimacy. Also, [Men] having a clear mind, and peace at home that means so much to a man.”
It’s hard not to become spiritual with the juxtaposition of a man needing help, yet he helps others.
Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.